“I already knew!” Some LGBTQ+ people tell me it can be comforting that close friends and family were already aware – it makes it feel like less of a huge deal.
If they swear you to secrecy, honour that request until your grave. Best not to advise your child to avoid telling anyone – seriously, you elderly relatives will cope – as it suggests it’s something shameful, but you can guide them on potential reactions and advise caution if need be. “Do you need me to do anything or talk to anyone?” Coming out isn’t always a problem they need solving, mostly they want a friendly ear, but it’s usually absolutely exhausting and… they might need you to tell Grandma.
It helps you too: if they’ve already confided in someone else you know, you can talk to this person without breaking either confidence. Talking to your kid about how the other reveals went can be a good distraction until they’re ready to talk more how they’re feeling. An LGBTQ+ person spends their entire life coming out to someone and… it doesn’t always go well. This question should reassure you – at least they haven’t been going through this alone. Your child knows there’s less baggage between them and someone they don’t know as well as you. Often an LGBTQ+ child will tell friends, and may try another adult – perhaps someone close to you – to use as a sounding board. “Have you told anybody else?” Don’t be offended, but it’s unlikely you’re the first they’ve told. Kids will be kids and might turn their nose up at physical contact – but put it on the table and see what happens. Ask them how they’re feeling now they’ve told you it gives them time to process. You should feel honoured tell them you are. LGBTQ+ kids don’t just tell anyone at first. “I’m so glad you told me.” However you feel about the news, your child has trusted you with something that’s lived inside of them for ever. You don’t have to sit there and say zip, though. Offer your support and an ear when they need it, whenever that happens to be. Going from “in” to “out” is a huge change of status. Chances are the coming-out didn’t go how they’d planned or expected – they may be in shock that it’s out there. Be readyįrustrating as it might be, they may not be ready to talk right away. Wait until you reckon they’re done and then, rather than tell them your opinion or turn it back to you, give them control and ask if they want to hear what you think. Sometimes it happens during fights, in anger, the words screamed at you. Calm, calm, calm, calmĬoming out isn’t always a saccharine, Hollywood moment.
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The words should come from them: this is their movie and we’re just extras. Gentle nudges, yes statement and pronouncements – “You’re trans, aren’t you?” – maybe not. If you feel they’re on the cusp, tell them you’ve noticed there’s something on their mind, that they can trust you if something is bothering them. Coming out is a watershed moment, a huge release of fear, hope, relief, joy and anger – there’s a lot going on. Never fear: we’re here to help you handle it like a pro.
As open-minded as you are, you may still find yourself surprised if your child comes out to you. Society is evolving, young people feel more able to express their sexuality and/or gender progress isn’t waiting for us to catch up. But it’s true what they say: there’s no manual. A lot of parenting is instinctive – from dad jokes, being a personal chauffeur, or a personal bank manager, to the big stuff like discipline and being a shoulder to cry on.